As a mum, or a parent in general, I find it is so easy to overlook my own well being. I’m talking a rounded well being here – physical, emotional, psychological. I spend so much of my time worrying about how my children are, that I forget to take care of myself too.
If I don’t have enough food in the house, I’ll make a meal for my kids and snack on the leftovers. The same goes if I don’t have enough time to make three meals – say we’re in a rush to get out. I’ll make the kids some food, and get everything ready to leave whilst they are eating.
At the end
of the day, I will collapse on the sofa – looking after kids is
bloody tiring. Enjoyable and highly rewarding, but tiring
nonetheless. When its been a long day, the last thing I want to do is
then spend the evening still running around. So instead of making a
meal, I will snack – either make myself a quick sandwich and grab
some crisps, or eat more leftovers. Three balanced meals a day
definitely goes out of the window!
exercise I get is running around after the kids. Again, the evening
comes and the last thing I want to be doing is pushing my exhausted
body even further. Besides, where would the money come from?! It all
goes on the kids.
I get so
worn down by it all, without realising. It’s only when I take a step
back that I realise just how little attention I’ve been paying or how
much I’ve been snapping. And then the inevitable mum guilt steps in.
It is SO important to take care of yourself as a mum. We spend so much time worrying that we are not giving our children enough, that we usually forget to give ourselves time too. Time to sit down with a hot cuppa and put our feet up. Time to learn that new skill we wanted to learn. Time to check something off of our every growing bucket list. Time to acknowledge just how we are really feeling.
care of ourselves, we are essentially treating ourselves as human
beings rather than just mums. We acknowledge that we have needs too,
and in order to get the most out of ourselves we need to adhere to
If we don’t
take care of ourselves, we will burn out. Then we will be of no use
to anybody. Whereas if we make a conscious effort to look after
ourselves, then we will be in the best position to better look after
In order to best look after our children, we need to first look after ourselves.